Re: 24/7 and real life vs. online
Lets not think to much today about who is right...
I live my life and you live yours...
and remember we are creatures born to crave and covet...
24/7 is a hard thing to pull off... real life has its challenges and so does the on line thing.
recently a relative "newbie" and I were chatting...
her question:
how is someone your collared submissive if you really don't spend time together, except on line?
▫§ìřŵ£övê▫™ says: first lets agree... kissing in real life is better than kissing on line.
well, of course, she answered.
▫§ìřŵ£övê▫™ says: there are those who would argue... that an on line relationship can be just as good or better than a real life one. I would say ... in order of importance -
there is r/t Marriage,
then there is living together
same difference - there are Real life Collared lifestyle couples
and there is on line collars.
one takes more commitment and effort to really make it work.
on line commitment can seem strong if you are a fast typist or multitask and use multiple personalities... on line one cannot know for sure. It takes phone and cam and even tho that can be fun and exciting... it is still short of touch ...short of being there.
STILL...
an on line collar makes sense when both parties understand the purpose and limits
most collars mean restrictions
its there for insecure ppl to lock down a partner
and I find that negative
you can't control what someone does with their on line time if you are not in the room with them.
if you think you can as a Dom...you're full of it
(not sayin', just sayin' *wink)
so - on line, I don't restrict my girls- play with any one you like
but if I am your Dom... the one you want most... and you wear my collar- honor me by being honest... telling me what you do on line - so I never look foolish...like I'm the last to know. Find someone that fits you better ? ask and I will release you. (voila- the velco collar)
Again this is an honest and open way of having your fun on line... of scratching an itch that might not otherwise be considered itchy.
if you REALLY are never to meet that means something.
there are limits - I have an on line collar with the married woman -but we both know it really only means she will come find ME first if she wants to play on line. also... I will tell her if I find someone to play with and don't have time for her - honest. that is what OUR collar means (this sub and I in particular)
I also have a collar with a sub I have met in r/t ...played with and may see again someday. We maintain a r/t thing with computer and phone. the collar with her means something different. she I am mentoring ...helping... almost being like a Dad she doesn't have and her collar means she asks me permission first before doing things.
she doesnt' have to but she is younger and she likes my directions and approval.
I have friends on line who are couples too ...they WANT to be together but have not been able to work out the logistics yet -
so their collar means something else.
in the chat rooms at MSN collars seem to come and go every couple of months ppl change etc always looking for the right one to me its silly but ...many participate at many differents levels
its not intended to hurt or offend its just that not every one uses the computer the same way
like in acting on stage or screen... some are serious actors others are comedians... etc.
its easier to begin to learn about D/s on line I think
you can stop things anytime you want to ...just walk away
eventually you will decide you want to try it real time or you will not
some decide that they can ONLY do it on line.
and so for those... a collar is the ulitmate
and you offend them when you say its not really real
but we agreed already... and I have argued that a real kiss is better than a computer smoochie emoticon. (or even a well typed description of a kiss... which can make one swoon~!)
so real D/s is better ... and online collar can only be a fantasy...
fantasy version of the real thing
doesn't mean it can't be a total turn on
I have trained girls online to cum on my command
so it CAN have its moments... its thrills...
but I'd rather have a real bj than a cyber bj any day
Does that cover the subject?
hehehheehe....
*goes looking for something he craves...daily... real... touch.
"Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be... it's easy! All you need is LOVE!"
