Why Men, Women and Generalizations SUCK~!
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okay I wrote this bloggy as the 203rd reply to "Stephanie's Blog". She's great -- good writing and lots of fun notions and definitely a female perspective.
Recently she wrote about the lovin' time men and women share.
so for reference here is what she wrote:
Stephanie's myspace blog
April 26, 2008 - Saturday
IT'S CALLED FOREPLAY. LOOK INTO IT.
Category: Romance and Relationships
If you are a man, I'm addressing this to you. Yes, you. The one who proudly boasts that what I'm about to write doesn't apply to you. You know how to please a woman. You do everything right. No woman ever complains about you. Not to your face anyway.
Women talk. And if there's one thing I've learned from listening to these talks, it's that no matter what you're doing, you need to do it longer. Yes, LONGER. As in taking your time. Slowing the heck down. Kissing her. Touching her. Engaging her mind.
What?
What does her mind have to do with it?
Everything. Foreplay starts here.
(Picture me pointing to my brain.)
It's the way you look at her when you tell her she looks beautiful. It's the way your fingertips settle into the small of her back as you guide her through a doorway. It's the way you whisper in her ear what you want to do to her later that evening...
You could drag foreplay on for hours before you even hit the bedroom. And then, once you're in the bedroom, your natural inclination will be to throw her down on the bed and go straight to it. After all, that's what passion is all about, isn't it?
Sure. Unbridled passion has its place. We all like to be shoved against a wall and taken every now and then. But there is a difference between passionate impatience and just...impatience. And if you're expecting her to enjoy things, you might want to stop. Take a breath. Slow it down a notch or ten.
First, kiss her. And keep kissing her. Touch her face. Touch her hair. Touch...everything else. And I do mean EVERYTHING ELSE. Remember when you were fifteen and you couldn't do anything more than make out so you'd kiss and touch for hours on the sofa? We aren't asking for hours but how about a minute or two? And, while you're at it, add ten minutes to that.
Then, since you're kissing her, kiss her all over. Tease her. Count to a thousand and you still probably haven't been teasing her long enough. Make her beg.
I'm going to say all this but you still aren't going to listen. I think, when it comes to sex, there's man time and woman time and I think a man thinks he's been doing something for ten minutes when it's really only been ten seconds. Kinda like if I had an ice cream sundae in front of me and was told I couldn't eat it until ten minutes had passed.
According to Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, we make love to the other person the way we want to be made love to. Notice how women are all kissy and touchy and you're just thinking, "Why doesn't she get there already?" There's one spot you want her attention to be focused on and it isn't your left ribcage. Well, we're doing what we want YOU to be doing. Hint, hint.
Women have hot spots all over our bodies. You kiss our left calf and it's going to do something to us. You touch that spot on the inside of our elbow and we'll squirm. But you don't touch that because you think only one spot really matters. Okay, maybe a couple of other spots too. And you're ready to get down to business before you've even hit the bedroom door. So you rush...and then later, if someone asked if you engaged in foreplay, you would say:
"Well...yeah. I kissed her."
For twenty seconds.
****
Now my bloggy:
one thing I can say that might add something to the discussion is that ALL GENERALIZATIONS have two components.
One - the statistical back up (I've talk to a lot of "whomever" and they say OR a recent study says most... ) Now, Stephanie I love your writing and your view and insights but I have to agree with an earlier post and say LADIES you GET what you accept. More on that in a moment.
Two - they can't apply to the individual. Just because some or mostly ALL people in a group act or "do something" in a particular way DOES NOT MEAN that Me or the guy down the street is the actual person you are addressing. We are all individuals and a generalization can't truly address the problem. Its not a a path to victory.
In this blog you "call out" every man saying "yes, You". So, LADIES... If ALL of us were lousy in bed you'd be alot angrier I suspect. So while I am GLAD there are so many Male idiot types out there doing it "wrong". It makes ME look like a real man. What you CAN hope to achieve with a generalization complaint delivered in this manner is that the men who actually care will "bring up their game some" and those that you wanted to hear it will simply continue to ignore it. That becomes the bigger question ...doesn't it? Why ignonre her words?
LADIES you GET what you accept. There I said it. I have tons of female friends and they go on and on about how the man they want ...sucks. I just shake my head and think why ARE you with him? ...rewarding him with your soft feminine ways, your pretty smile, your shining eyes... your adorable giggles... Why do you waste the only gifts God gives you (YOUR TIME - being the biggest) on stupid men types that don't acknowledge you the way you'd like?
Whether the issue is foreplay (however you define it) or simply acknowledging what's important to you (like the movie that made you cry on HBO last week) in a positive caring way... it does not matter. Yep I said it again. It seems to me. over and over... that women want the "bad boy" who doesn't care and then are suprised as can be when he in fact "doesn't care".
ITS FOREPLAY, LOOK INTO IT.
I looked into it. I'm good at what I do. That ain't the issue. The issue is you ladies are loving and rewarding bad behavior. (heheheh, "in general", anyway)
Here's 3 more generalizations to close on...
NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
SHE ONLY CARES ABOUT MONEY
HE'S REALLY SWEET BUT I DON'T WANT HIM LIKE...(FILL IN THE BLANK)
its GENERALIZATIONS that don't heal.... just stir the discussion.
Which, I assume, was the whole point?
ugh! boys and girls should play nice.
we got to be better to each other
and that's
Why Men, Women and Generalizations SUCK~!
(check one and move on)
"how your soul learns... blessed and burned in the fire of your life!"
okay I wrote this bloggy as the 203rd reply to "Stephanie's Blog". She's great -- good writing and lots of fun notions and definitely a female perspective.
Recently she wrote about the lovin' time men and women share.
so for reference here is what she wrote:
Stephanie's myspace blog
April 26, 2008 - Saturday
IT'S CALLED FOREPLAY. LOOK INTO IT.
Category: Romance and Relationships
If you are a man, I'm addressing this to you. Yes, you. The one who proudly boasts that what I'm about to write doesn't apply to you. You know how to please a woman. You do everything right. No woman ever complains about you. Not to your face anyway.
Women talk. And if there's one thing I've learned from listening to these talks, it's that no matter what you're doing, you need to do it longer. Yes, LONGER. As in taking your time. Slowing the heck down. Kissing her. Touching her. Engaging her mind.
What?
What does her mind have to do with it?
Everything. Foreplay starts here.
(Picture me pointing to my brain.)
It's the way you look at her when you tell her she looks beautiful. It's the way your fingertips settle into the small of her back as you guide her through a doorway. It's the way you whisper in her ear what you want to do to her later that evening...
You could drag foreplay on for hours before you even hit the bedroom. And then, once you're in the bedroom, your natural inclination will be to throw her down on the bed and go straight to it. After all, that's what passion is all about, isn't it?
Sure. Unbridled passion has its place. We all like to be shoved against a wall and taken every now and then. But there is a difference between passionate impatience and just...impatience. And if you're expecting her to enjoy things, you might want to stop. Take a breath. Slow it down a notch or ten.
First, kiss her. And keep kissing her. Touch her face. Touch her hair. Touch...everything else. And I do mean EVERYTHING ELSE. Remember when you were fifteen and you couldn't do anything more than make out so you'd kiss and touch for hours on the sofa? We aren't asking for hours but how about a minute or two? And, while you're at it, add ten minutes to that.
Then, since you're kissing her, kiss her all over. Tease her. Count to a thousand and you still probably haven't been teasing her long enough. Make her beg.
I'm going to say all this but you still aren't going to listen. I think, when it comes to sex, there's man time and woman time and I think a man thinks he's been doing something for ten minutes when it's really only been ten seconds. Kinda like if I had an ice cream sundae in front of me and was told I couldn't eat it until ten minutes had passed.
According to Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, we make love to the other person the way we want to be made love to. Notice how women are all kissy and touchy and you're just thinking, "Why doesn't she get there already?" There's one spot you want her attention to be focused on and it isn't your left ribcage. Well, we're doing what we want YOU to be doing. Hint, hint.
Women have hot spots all over our bodies. You kiss our left calf and it's going to do something to us. You touch that spot on the inside of our elbow and we'll squirm. But you don't touch that because you think only one spot really matters. Okay, maybe a couple of other spots too. And you're ready to get down to business before you've even hit the bedroom door. So you rush...and then later, if someone asked if you engaged in foreplay, you would say:
"Well...yeah. I kissed her."
For twenty seconds.
****
Now my bloggy:
one thing I can say that might add something to the discussion is that ALL GENERALIZATIONS have two components.
One - the statistical back up (I've talk to a lot of "whomever" and they say OR a recent study says most... ) Now, Stephanie I love your writing and your view and insights but I have to agree with an earlier post and say LADIES you GET what you accept. More on that in a moment.
Two - they can't apply to the individual. Just because some or mostly ALL people in a group act or "do something" in a particular way DOES NOT MEAN that Me or the guy down the street is the actual person you are addressing. We are all individuals and a generalization can't truly address the problem. Its not a a path to victory.
In this blog you "call out" every man saying "yes, You". So, LADIES... If ALL of us were lousy in bed you'd be alot angrier I suspect. So while I am GLAD there are so many Male idiot types out there doing it "wrong". It makes ME look like a real man. What you CAN hope to achieve with a generalization complaint delivered in this manner is that the men who actually care will "bring up their game some" and those that you wanted to hear it will simply continue to ignore it. That becomes the bigger question ...doesn't it? Why ignonre her words?
LADIES you GET what you accept. There I said it. I have tons of female friends and they go on and on about how the man they want ...sucks. I just shake my head and think why ARE you with him? ...rewarding him with your soft feminine ways, your pretty smile, your shining eyes... your adorable giggles... Why do you waste the only gifts God gives you (YOUR TIME - being the biggest) on stupid men types that don't acknowledge you the way you'd like?
Whether the issue is foreplay (however you define it) or simply acknowledging what's important to you (like the movie that made you cry on HBO last week) in a positive caring way... it does not matter. Yep I said it again. It seems to me. over and over... that women want the "bad boy" who doesn't care and then are suprised as can be when he in fact "doesn't care".
ITS FOREPLAY, LOOK INTO IT.
I looked into it. I'm good at what I do. That ain't the issue. The issue is you ladies are loving and rewarding bad behavior. (heheheh, "in general", anyway)
Here's 3 more generalizations to close on...
NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
SHE ONLY CARES ABOUT MONEY
HE'S REALLY SWEET BUT I DON'T WANT HIM LIKE...(FILL IN THE BLANK)
its GENERALIZATIONS that don't heal.... just stir the discussion.
Which, I assume, was the whole point?
ugh! boys and girls should play nice.
we got to be better to each other
and that's
Why Men, Women and Generalizations SUCK~!
(check one and move on)
"how your soul learns... blessed and burned in the fire of your life!"
posted by Sir(%)withLove at 12:15
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